How many times have you been having a conversation with someone and it seems like you’re both talking to a wall? Everything you have to say is bouncing off that person like a boomerang and the conversation seems to be going nowhere? Yeah. Me too.
We all have had a moment like this at least once in our lives. A big reason for this is that a lot of the time we are having conversations with our intellect. This is the layer of our consciousness that deals with analysis and judgment. When our intellect is turned on during a conversation, most of the time we’re not really listening. We’re either waiting for the other person to stop talking so that we can chime in with our own input or we’re agreeing, disagreeing, and saying “yes” or “no” inside. We’re not really in the present moment, we’re not really giving 100%, and we’re not really gaining much from the situation.
Better yet, sometimes this kind of passive listening can get us into a lot of trouble. “…Are you even listening to what I’m saying?” Yeah, we’ve all been there. But what would happen if we had conversations with our heart? What would this look like?
In my own personal experience, I’ve noticed that when I listen with full attention to what another person has to say, it makes them feel heard and seen and recognized. With heart-to-heart communication, there’s more depth, more connection, and more love. Not to mention the fact that you’re more likely to remember what that person said later on. Now who doesn’t want more of that in their lives? So much of the suffering and bickering in the world could be solved if we simply had more conversations from the heart. What will you choose today?
Written by Kaitlin Acton